Common Myths About Motherhood and Mental Health
Motherhood comes with a set of expectations, many of which are influenced by cultural norms, societal pressures, and well-meaning advice from loved ones. Unfortunately, these expectations can sometimes do more harm than good, especially when they perpetuate harmful myths about what motherhood “should” feel like. Today, we’re debunking some of the most common myths about motherhood and mental health, so you can feel more empowered to prioritize your well-being.
Myth 1: “Motherhood Comes Naturally”
One of the most pervasive myths is that becoming a mother should feel instinctual and effortless. While there are moments of natural connection, the reality is that motherhood can also feel overwhelming, confusing, and exhausting. There’s no “one way” to feel, and many new moms need time to adjust to their new role. Struggling with feelings of uncertainty or inadequacy doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom—it means you’re human.
The Truth: It’s perfectly normal to need support, guidance, and time to adapt to motherhood. Bonding with your baby is a process, and there’s no shame in reaching out for help.
Myth 2: “It’s Just the Baby Blues”
While it’s true that up to 80% of mothers experience the “baby blues”—a temporary state of moodiness, tearfulness, and exhaustion that usually resolves within two weeks—postpartum mental health challenges can be much more complex. Perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADs), such as postpartum depression or anxiety, are more severe and longer-lasting than the baby blues.
The Truth: If you’re feeling persistently sad, anxious, or overwhelmed beyond the first two weeks postpartum, it’s important to seek support. PMADs are common, treatable, and nothing to be ashamed of.
Myth 3: “Good Moms Don’t Feel Angry or Anxious”
Mothers are often expected to be calm, nurturing, and endlessly patient. As a result, emotions like anger or anxiety are stigmatized, making moms feel guilty or ashamed when they arise. But the truth is, motherhood can be incredibly stressful, and it’s normal to feel a wide range of emotions.
The Truth: Feeling anger or anxiety doesn’t make you a bad mother. These emotions are signals that something in your environment or situation needs attention. Therapy and other support systems can help you process these emotions and develop healthy coping strategies.
Myth 4: “You Should Be Happy All the Time”
The pressure to be happy and grateful for every moment of motherhood can be overwhelming. Yes, motherhood brings moments of immense joy, but it also comes with sleepless nights, identity shifts, and emotional challenges. Expecting constant happiness sets an unrealistic standard and invalidates the genuine struggles many mothers face.
The Truth: It’s okay to acknowledge the hard parts of motherhood. You can love your child deeply and still find parenting to be incredibly difficult. Both truths can coexist.
Myth 5: “Self-Care Is Selfish”
Many moms feel guilty about taking time for themselves, believing that their needs should always come last. But the reality is that self-care is essential for both your well-being and your ability to care for your baby. You can’t pour from an empty cup, and neglecting your own needs can lead to burnout and decreased emotional availability.
The Truth: Self-care is a vital part of being a good parent. Taking time to rest, nourish yourself, and recharge allows you to be the best version of yourself for your family.
Myth 6: “If You Need Help, You’re Weak”
There’s a common misconception that asking for help—whether it’s from family, friends, or a mental health professional—is a sign of failure. Many mothers feel pressure to “do it all” and hesitate to admit they’re struggling. But seeking help is actually one of the bravest and healthiest things you can do.
The Truth: Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. It shows that you’re committed to taking care of yourself and your family. At Mothergood Health, we celebrate and support mothers who seek out the care they deserve.
Myth 7: “Motherhood Looks the Same for Everyone”
Every mother’s experience is unique, and what works for one family may not work for another. Comparing your journey to others’ can lead to feelings of inadequacy, but it’s important to remember that there’s no one “right” way to mother.
The Truth: Your experience of motherhood is valid, even if it looks different from your friends’, family’s, or what you see on social media. Give yourself grace and trust that your path is your own.
Conclusion
Motherhood is full of myths that can make you doubt yourself or feel isolated, but understanding the truth about these common misconceptions can be freeing. Remember, it’s okay to feel however you feel, and seeking support is a sign of strength. At Mothergood Health, we’re here to provide compassionate, evidence-based care that meets you where you are. You don’t have to navigate this journey alone.
Interested in learning more about how we can support you? Contact us today to explore our mental health services for new and expectant moms.
